Speaking from personal experience, and being a stubborn gal from day one, I can tell you that refusing to see things from another point of view is only making things harder on yourself. Let me tell you why! Read on, if you would be so kind….
YOU’RE RIGHT…BUT NOT ALWAYS
Listen, we all like being right…and most of the time we probably like to believe that we are right. It’s not always easy to put your feelings, emotions and opinions aside to hear someones point of view, for whatever reason. However, if you find yourself in a pickle and not seeing eye to eye with someone/something/a situation, make sure you’re taking in all the facts before storming off and getting upset. Maybe you need a little mental break to gather your thoughts, and that’s also okay. There’s often three sides to a story, remember. And as much as we should always stand in our truth (because that’s HUGE!) sometimes we just need to swallow our pride and see things from the other side. Easier said then done, I know, but again this takes practice, patience and a few little tricks.
THE FLIP SIDE
One of the best pieces of advice that I got when having troubles with someone and finding myself in a potential argument was to remove the emotion from it. Sounds counter productive when we’re so based off of our emotions, and it’s a tricky one to do, but I promise you that this can help. It also might sound ridiculous especially if you’re in a muddy situation with your significant other or with a person that means a lot to you, but doing this can help you see everything with a clear head. We can get really attached to our thoughts and patterns of thinking when we refuse to see past them. I think that understanding that not everyone thinks like you is a really challenging concept to overcome…because why wouldn’t the way you see things be right? It makes so much sense!! Collecting the facts means that you are looking at everything from a non-judgemental stand point so that you can see things from someone else’s point of view. And it’s so important. Putting yourself in someone else’s shoes can be difficult, certainly when you are on completely different ends of the spectrum. As difficult as this may be to do, we must allow ourselves the freedom to become vulnerable and perhaps, just perhaps, come to terms with the fact that we may be, gulp, wrong or misinformed. Also, it’s kind of exhausting talking to someone who thinks they are always right. Am I right? heehee…
GIVE IT A WHIRL
Perhaps you’re stubborn, like me, and have to kind of force yourself to see it from a different perspective. That’s okay, too. And its going to be harder for some of us to give in. Here’s something else you can try. This also works well to prep yourself for a situation you already know puts you in a certain mood or mindset. React to it with the opposite emotion. This isn’t going to work for every situation, so use your common sense here, and also do not do this out of spite. I’ll give you an easy example, and something I know that I’ve referenced before. “Dumb” drivers and busy grocery store trips.
I know that driving can put me in a certain mood if I don’t check myself. A lot of what we go through is really mind over matter. Getting upset about the driving situation, or the busy grocery store…guess what? Being pissed off and and knowing you’re going to be pissed off even before you start driving or step foot in the store because of the busyness or the rush hour…well, you’ve already made your mind up. But what about approaching either of these in a different light? You already know that leaving somewhere at 430/5pm you’re going to hit rush hour…so crank your favourite tunes and have a dance party in the car, make a game by counting the number of personalized license plates, or aaak!!, just being totally mindful and in the moment!! Perhaps you completely switch it around and be grateful that you have a car, you have a job you’re driving from or somewhere to be, and that you are here to experience it all! That you have the funds to go to the grocery store and purchase fresh food and your favourite bag of chips (I’ll never stop referencing chips, by the way). I started throwing on my earphones and pumping my favourite tunes while grocery shopping to cancel the noise, and keep me in a good mood. You have the choice to make any experience what it is!! Do you best to not make your mind up before hand..and if you do, and you are honest with yourself and recognize it ain’t working…well, change your perspective. You are way more powerful then you give yourself credit for and you have all of the power to change it up!!
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Much Love+Peace, Nancy